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I am a mother of three, sharing my journey of hope and survival following the loss of our son...

  • Join me for StreetSafe-Life Saving Driving Experience

    October 19 in Matthews

        This journey through the valley of shadows and sorrow is a solitary one…       Thankfully, the pathway of advocacy is not.       The issue of teen driver safety is no small matter to my family, for obvious reasons…       What I’ve gradually discovered over the last 4+ years is there are other like-minded individuals and organizations scattered throughout our community, also full...

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  • Convict or Convince?

    StreetSafe car

      What is the difference between convincing someone and convicting them?   Does it matter in the end?       By definition, to convince is to persuade someone to believe or to do something.   Alternatively, to convict is to show someone they are in the wrong or at fault in some way.       Not long ago I was invited to guest speak for another organization dedicated to teen driver safety, StreetSafe.     &n...

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  • The Power of One...

    B's roadside cross

        Every day of our lives is filled with decisions…   Some of those choices require minimal thought, such as what time to set the alarm clock for, whether to have toast or scrambled eggs for breakfast, whether or not to take a jacket when leaving the house for the day and so on.   In the grand scheme of things, those outcomes are of no consequence, as they have minimal impact on the true direction of your life.         Other...

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  • Saving just one...

    Student surveys

        Even the brightest, sunniest day loses its luster when reading the critical commentary of an anonymous teen.       “I learned that it is an idiotic idea to drive a car with a cellular device in the car.   It didn’t change my opinion (about cell phones and driving) because I don’t have any personal care for Brian because I didn’t know him.   Even though I don’t care how your son died or why, I am sorry for ...

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  • Just That Quick...

    Fallout injury

      Monday night, I was reminded once again of how quickly life can change…   One little moment of distraction, a split-second of carelessness and suddenly your world turns upside down…       I was upstairs searching for a book; Gracie came up, asked a question and went back down to unload the dishwasher.   A few seconds after she left the room, I heard several thumps followed by a resounding thud; I ran to the top of the stairwell a...

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  • No Way Around It

    Beach Days

        The door to his room stands open, empty and silent in his absence.   It’s orderly and neat, quite unlike the way he left it all those years ago.   His bed is made, the curtains drawn and the closet doors now closed.   We seldom cross the threshold; even the dust bunnies have found other places to hide.   Nevertheless, the lone light shines in Brian’s window, reminding the world though he’s gone, he’s not forgotten… ...

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  • Temperamental Temperament

    JG&TG

        Based on the last two versions of my bible, I’ve concluded the author of Proverbs must have been a man.   Or at least the person who translated it was…       A new acquaintance recently quoted one Proverb in particular: “Better to live on the corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” –Proverbs 21:9       He said it in a half-hearted joking manner while we discussed...

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  • From the Links to Life-Part 2

    Brian Practice Range

        I wonder what Brian would say to the up and coming juniors if he was here?   What message would he want to convey?       It’s been a long time since I played golf myself, but I remember enough to know the lessons learned on the links are easily applied to everyday life.   Indeed, I watched them take hold in our son…         He learned about honor and integrity…paying attention and kee...

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  • From the Links to Life-Part 1

    bcg plcc

        Those of us who’ve lost a child dread the inevitable day when our child will be forgotten…       We’re blessed to have Brian remembered in so many different ways…   Nevertheless, it’s difficult when the annual junior golf award at Pine Lake is presented in his memory.   Especially for John.       It wrenches open the compartment in his mind he endeavors to keep tightly latched&h...

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  • Hospital avoidance...

    Family Gathering

      I don’t like hospitals, no matter where they are.   Of course, I don’t know many people who do, but still…   Without question, they are essential and provide vital services in a safe, controlled environment.   For me, however, they also symbolize the very thin line between life and death, of how easily things can go wrong and turn out differently than we wish.   I suppose it’s always nerve-wracking to require the services of a ...

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