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I am a mother of three, sharing my journey of hope and survival following the loss of our son...

  • Forgotten, temporarily

      As the hours rolled by without a word, a tiny kernel hardened in my heart.   “How could he?” I thought…   My glimmer of hope flickered until at long last, it sputtered out.       He couldn’t say he wasn’t told in advance. I reminded him, repeatedly, throughout the month leading up to it...         John is prone to tunnel vision when he tackles new projects; he becomes obsessive an...

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  • Living Fearless?

        There are a few things that strike fear into the heart of every woman, but even more so in mine…   The first is something terrible happening to a member of my family, followed closely by having a serious health issue of my own.       I wage a daily war against worry of all kinds; collectively, they erode my tenuous state of balance. Despite prayer and methodical analysis of the issues, I frequently feel like my anxiety is growing stro...

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  • Runaway

      Puffs of wind pull fiery leaves from their branches; the tang of wood smoke laces the chilly air...   Once again, the heightened sorrow of this season has descended, arriving alongside the early darkness of our shorter days…       It always comes down to the same thing every year, every time.   John believes we should have stayed where we were; he’s confident Brian and Grace could have dealt with the changes wrought by yet another...

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  • 17 Years...

        Oh, Brian.       Some days I can hardly stand the pain… To think of where our lives were going as compared to where they are…five years later, it’s still impossible to reconcile. I suppose that’s my real mistake, comparing now and then.         I thought our plans were golden…   Of course, nothing was set in stone, but I had a general sense of the direction we were heading in&h...

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  • Gone Visiting...

      I did something a few days ago which I haven’t done since I don’t know when…   I spent three hours visiting friends without the slightest concern for the time; I felt no pressure to hurry up and get going so I could complete the next item on my endless to-do list.   I had nowhere else I needed to go, and more importantly, I was exactly where I wanted to be.       What occasion quelled my sense of urgency?   One of thos...

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  • Commitment Made

        “This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown in the scrap heap.” –George Bernard Shaw       While I cannot agree that for me it’s joyful, there is definite comfort knowing I’ve done all I can in a particular endeavor.       Every night for the last three weeks, John and I had similar conv...

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  • Help Celebrate!

        “One of the stars in my sky has gone supernova, burning out without warning; his intensity, his exuberance, his energy, it’s all gone…       The urge to jump in the bottomless black hole left behind is overwhelming, instinctive, it’s so hard for me to resist.       Not so long ago, my family was just like yours.   We were ordinary people, living ordinary lives.       ...

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  • There's Still Time...

        Who would have ever thought it would be easier to get a couple of legislators to commit to attending StreetSafe than it would be to get 35 parents and their teens signed up?       Certainly not me…however, as of this writing, that is precisely what’s happened.       I must confess, I’ve been a little surprised and dismayed, but I’ve not given up hope…       I’m...

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  • Join me for StreetSafe-Life Saving Driving Experience

        This journey through the valley of shadows and sorrow is a solitary one…       Thankfully, the pathway of advocacy is not.       The issue of teen driver safety is no small matter to my family, for obvious reasons…       What I’ve gradually discovered over the last 4+ years is there are other like-minded individuals and organizations scattered throughout our community, also full...

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  • Convict or Convince?

      What is the difference between convincing someone and convicting them?   Does it matter in the end?       By definition, to convince is to persuade someone to believe or to do something.   Alternatively, to convict is to show someone they are in the wrong or at fault in some way.       Not long ago I was invited to guest speak for another organization dedicated to teen driver safety, StreetSafe.     &n...

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