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I am a mother of three, sharing my journey of hope and survival following the loss of our son...

  • The Right Move?

    4 months later

      Time continues to slip quietly by, unremarkable save for the calendar pages flipping forward at an ever increasing pace...I see its passage etched in the fine lines tattooing my face, the ever resilient gray highlighting my hair, and the unbidden slowdown in my pace...   I can hardly believe it’s been more than four months since we sold our Quail Ridge home. The change has continued to be cathartic for John. Shedding that house has allowed him to lose a modicum of the g...

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  • Happy Birthday B...

    BCG

      The candle of hope formerly illuminating B’s window now resides firmly within my heart…   Our lives continue to change, evolving in ways we didn’t anticipate when we left the house on Quail Ridge behind…   In reality, the difference isn’t necessarily new, but rather our awareness of it suddenly is…   I woke this morning and it dawned on me…on what would have been Brian’s 24th birthday (today), I no ...

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  • Will you commit?

    Lunchtime commitments for Celebrate My Drive

        While I was walking Gracie’s dog this afternoon, a car pulled through the parking lot just below our grassy pacing point…   I watched as the driver cruised to the end of the lot, approximately 225 feet in length; the entire time, he had one hand on the steering wheel and both eyes on his phone…       I marched back and forth, trailing Jasper as he searched for whatever it is that dogs seek, observing this young man, w...

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  • The Celebration is Underway...

    Celebrate My Drive

      Sometimes I get carried away and I lose my focus…       Days like today help me snap it right back into place…       If you told me six years ago that one day I would be involved in teen driver safety initiatives, I would have likely dissolved into tears and walked quickly away…       But here I am.   Working with Brian and Grace’s old high school, David W. Butler i...

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  • Beyond Driver's Ed

    StreetSafe-Saturday, October 18th

      If you could spend roughly $30, five hours of time and share a life-changing, potentially life-saving experience with your teenager and/or young adult child, would you do it?   Imagine for a moment…   You are newly licensed driver, heading down the interstate highway at 65 mph when a tractor trailer suddenly veers into your lane…   Your teenage daughter is driving home from school on a rainy afternoon when the car in front of her stops...

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  • I Do

    First Dance

      Long-held dreams do not yield easily, despite knowing the impossibility of their ever coming to pass…   We all look forward to the inevitable milestones in our children’s lives: the first tooth, first word, first step, and so on…   Later we begin to anticipate other achievements: high-school graduation, perhaps college or trade school, the first real job, getting married…the list goes on…       At so...

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  • Kindness Matters

    7 over 7

      I pulled up to the drive-through window of my favorite restaurant, ready to execute today’s mission…   Last Sunday, John and I committed to perform 7 over 7: seven random acts of kindness over seven days…       I paid for my order and told the young lady I also wanted to pay for the person in line behind me.       She was young, probably close to the age of Gracie; I’d never seen her before&hell...

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  • Winds of Change...

    The Fam

      The winds of change continue to blow through our lives…   Large, life-altering changes are on the horizon for many members of my family, the kind which require adjustments in attitude, behavior and thinking.   This fall will be a time of transition, filled with difficult endings and new beginnings brought on by relocations, relationship shifts and different work positions…       Giddiness…hissy fits…decisi...

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  • Bloom where you're planted...

    Gardenia transplant!

        Bloom where you’re planted…       You would think it would be easy, since I already have roots here, but it’s not.       Since we sold our house six weeks ago, I have been fussing and complaining to various degrees…   Not constantly, but far more often than I care to consider…   At times I’ve hardly been able to stand being around myself.     &nb...

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  • Intervention?

    Student surveys

      “That even if you aren’t texting, your cell phone can still cause accidents.   Your family is so strong and Brian’s story has already impacted me more than you would think.   <3 Thank you!       Also, I have been suicidal + cutting for a while now but I’ve been getting better but Brian’s story made me even more confident in wanting to continue to live and enjoy life while it lasts…” &n...

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