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Q: My boyfriend of seven months is far too jealous. No matter what I do or say, he finds a way to become suspicious. He denies that an unresolved problem from his past is making him behave this way, but I’ve never given him a reason to question my loyalty. He’s a great guy, and his pros outweigh his cons, but how much of this is normal? I think I’m very patient with him, but I’m reaching my limit.

Q: My mother has a fear of bugs so intense that I swear she has serious mental problems. She is completely out of control – and has been for as long as I can remember. How can I get her to see that it is not normal to yell and scream just because there is a beetle or spider near her?

Q: My boyfriend is gaining a high profile because of his blog. I admire his work, but I think he’s starting to take himself too seriously. I also think this is making him belittle my work in small ways. We both write in our day jobs, and we used to offer each other advice and feedback. But I don’t think I want his advice anymore because it’s edged with a tone of superiority.

Q: My husband is a wonderful stay-at-home dad. When he first began being at home, he had been laid off and was doing some consulting to bring in extra cash. That has stopped, and I miss the wiggle room that income created. I don’t want to take away from the job he does. I know it’s hard. But I wish he would take on some projects again. How can I bring this up sensitively?

Q: My roommate is great overall, but has a foul mouth. We’re women in our 20s and I’m not a prude, but the way that she talks leaves me disgusted several times a week. I know how hard it is to find someone that you live with well. I’ve had terrible roommates in the past. So I wish I could let this one thing go, and I don’t want to ruin a good thing. But I also feel like I need to say something because it is so not OK.

Q: My teenage son is smart, but has lost interest in school – he’s been skipping classes and not completing assignments. He’s gotten friendly with other kids that are not great students but really want to start a band. My husband feels that until his grades improve, his music should be taken away. But that’s the only thing he’s motivated about right now, so I think it’s the worst thing we could do.

Time and communication are your main hopes here:

Q: When is too soon to tell my boyfriend that I am on antidepressants, and have been for some time? He often spends the night, and I always hide my meds. I wonder what is common practice for people and figured you’d know.

Should the office newcomer get a lesson in dealing with the late co-worker?

My boyfriend wants to move across the country, but I don’t. Is it wrong that I’m not willing to consider this?

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Andrea Bonior
Andrea Bonior (that's BONN-yer!) is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, and writer. She completed her M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology focusing on individual and group psychotherapy for young adults and specializing in the treatment of anxiety disorders and depression.
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