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Posted: Thursday, Apr. 02, 2009

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Wedding stationery is a reflection of the warmth and happiness you feel at this special time. It should be chosen with as much care as your bridal attire.


The invitation is the first impression your guests will have of your wedding. You can select from an assortment of papers, colors and styles for your invitation, remaining as traditional as you wish, or creating something that is unique to you.

Your invitations and other wedding stationery can be ordered from stationery shops, department stores, specialty shops and print shops. In-house consultants will be able to assist you in the selection and proper wording. Just as in choosing a caterer or photographer, make sure you have chosen a professional who will give you expert advice and service.

Formal invitations should be ordered at least three months in advance, and always order extras in case more are needed to keep as mementos. Send several to your future mother-in-law, and let her know when the invitations have been mailed to guests. Consider ordering envelopes first, so you can have them addressed when the invitations arrive. It’s a good idea to order extra envelopes in case there are any mistakes in addressing. If you are having a large wedding, you might want to consider hiring a calligrapher to assist.

Invitations should be mailed four to six weeks prior to the wedding. If your wedding is during the summer or holiday season, consider mailing your invitations eight weeks before the wedding, as people are likely to be traveling at those times.

And don’t overlook enclosures you need to send along with the invitation, such as response cards, hotel reservation cards or directional cards.


If you have a small wedding, there may be friends and relatives you are unable to invite. You will want to notify them of your marriage with an announcement. The announcements should be mailed immediately after the wedding.


Enough can’t be said about the importance of a personal handwritten thank-you. First, it assures your guests you have received their gifts. Second, and perhaps more importantly, it is an opportunity for you to share your delight in their thoughtfulness. If the thank-you note is written after the wedding, you will want to let them know how much their presence meant to you, or how much they were missed if they were unable to attend.

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