Plan to plan!
Posted: Monday, Oct. 01, 2012
Photo by: Nathan Abplanalp Photography
Sheri Riley is currently seeking a post-graduate degree in Invasive Cardiology. She enjoys sports and spending time outside with her fiance, Jeff, and their two dogs, Lola and Cami. She is getting married October 12, 2013. Contact Sheri here.
And then plan again.
Its easy to say that Ive been a Type A personality since birth. My mom and dad tell me all the time how, even as a toddler, I do it myself! So, when Jeff and I got engaged, I thought having a wedding planner would be such a waste. Im crafty; Im down for a little DIY, so why do we need a planner?
HA! What was I thinking?
I think the moment I realized I needed a planner was when my mom (whom I value more than anyone) said, Oh, me and your aunts can just go the morning of the wedding and set-up! Now, I love my family very dearly and truly appreciate any help they are willing to dish out, but there is no way I want my mother running around the day of my wedding setting up centerpieces. Theres just something about a wedding planner accidently not doing something the way you wanted and then your mom accidentally not doing something the way you wanted. I began to start to realize maybe I actually did need some help
I think my biggest internal battles with having a wedding planner were the cost and feeling of losing control of our wedding but mostly the cost.
As Im sure many of you know, wedding planners aren't going to be the least expensive aspect of your wedding. However, as my planning progresses, I can see why. Not only are they taking on one of the most important events in your life, but also taking on you. Now, I dont care what anyone says, weddings bring out the straight up crazy in us women. Although completely unintentional, we are all going to have some pretty ugly moments. And thats okay its a stressful time! Which makes me understand why wedding planners dont come cheap. That doesnt mean you have to find the most expensive planner you can find! Just be mindful that you will often get what you pay for.
For the most part, Ive enjoyed planning our wedding. Jeff has been SO awesome and really receptive. Hes been dragged back and forth and has still remained positive throughout the whole process. I thought by putting a planner into the mix, Jeff and I would turn into a threesome and we would lose control of what we wanted. Wrong again. Most wedding planners have something called Month-of or Day-of coordination, which allows them to come in a few weeks out from the wedding and take over everything that youve already planned. PERFECT! Thats exactly what we needed. Since we had such a long engagement, weve been able to do a lot of it on our own. What we really needed was just someone to make sure all of our ideas came together on our day. Best part is, they generally allow you to keep in touch with them via email as much as you need and even offer input on vendors. Told ya, BOMB!
I hope this has helped some of you who are also trying to decide whether or not you need a planner. Wedding budgets stink, but I really feel like this is something us brides shouldnt skimp on.
World peace and skinny jeans,
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