Southern state of mind
Posted: Monday, Oct. 22, 2012
Photo by: Nathan Abplanalp Photography
Sheri Riley is currently seeking a post-graduate degree in Invasive Cardiology. She enjoys sports and spending time outside with her fiance, Jeff, and their two dogs, Lola and Cami. She is getting married October 12, 2013. Contact Sheri here.
This past weekend, Jeff and I made the 10 hour haul to Magee, Mississippi for a former teammate's wedding. Jeff hasn't seen the guys since he graduated from Southern Miss almost 2 years ago, so he was pretty excited. The wedding was beautiful, and I was really glad we made the trip.While we were driving back, I had a ton of time to do some homework and run though some wedding ideas with Jeff (nowhere for him to hide - he was trapped). In my brainstorming, it got me thinking: 1) Holy cow it's less than a year away and 2) it's just ONE day. Jeff is stuck with me and all my craziness forever. Have I lost sight in what comes after the wedding?I think a lot of us get so wrapped up in our special day that we forget to continue to build our relationships with our future hubbies. That being said, on that 10-hour car trip, I realized more than ever how much more important it is for us to have a great life together AFTER the wedding than all the silly little details that can easily be obsessed over during the planning process.So, what are some ways to help build said relationship? I'm so glad you asked :)1. Pre-marital counseling: I think a lot of people think that because you go to pre-martial counseling that you shouldn't even be getting married. I say false. No one's relationship is perfect. Counseling helps build relationships and that's a great thing! At least go for the advice. There's a ton to gain by going.2. Date nights: We've been slacking with this, but Jeff and I like to dedicate one night to each other. Maybe it's dinner and a movie one week and then mini golf the next. It doesn't really matter what it is as long as it's together.3. Trips: Even 10-hour car rides! They give us the chance to talk and see new places together. We are going to the Dominican next month and I could not be more excited!I hope everyone is keeping the big picture in mind! I know it can be easy to forget it (as terrible as the sounds). Realizing it makes me that much more excited for the days and years after October 12, 2013 :)World peace and skinny jeans,Sheri xo
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