Comfort food for the soul
Posted: Monday, Mar. 18, 2013
Photo by Lora Denton Photography.
Originally from England, Sarah Ryberg has lived in Charlotte for the last 12 years and is a graduate of UNC Charlotte. After two whirlwind weddings - one in Charlotte and another in her homeland - Sarah is settling into married life and learning what it takes to be a Mrs. You can reach Sarah at email@example.com
Ive always been optimistic and usually Im the one that reminds Robert our future will get better. However, the last two years have been tough for us and there are days my belief system falters. Those are the days I appreciate and value my marriage the most. Having spent six years together, Robert knows and understands me. When I come home with mascara running down my face and absolutely no hope that a silver lining exists, Robert reminds me that it does.
I know we arent the only couple who suffers from financial instability. I started this blog because I wanted to share our story and hear stories from other couples as well. Now as Robert and I go through yet another turbulent period in our lives, Im reminded that the best part of a rocky situation is having each other.
Earlier this year, I applied for a promotion and didnt get it. Looking back on it now, Im still surviving and I know that other opportunities will come along. However, I was devastated at the time. Ive applied for so many positions that could change our financial situation and it hasnt worked out yet. On top of that, we got terrifying news about our tax return, which compromised our ability to take our week-long Disney vacation. It was a tough day and I wasnt prepared for it. I dont cry very often, but I spent the entire drive home crying on the phone with Robert. The best part was he said everything I needed to hear, and by the time I got home, I felt better. Sure I still drowned my sorrows in chocolate and re-runs of The Big Bang Theory, but it was hubby that comforted me that day.
Thats the wonderful thing about marriage, even the tough times can be cherished memories. Those are the moments where you realize just how strong your love for one another is. No matter how much we struggle, I wouldnt change those moments for the world. In years to come, well look back on these days and marvel at the strides weve made together. As Walt Disney would say, all the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.
I know that if I have hubby by my side, I can handle a few more kicks.
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