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A Lesson Learned...

By Carolina Sonshine on 03/24/13 22:40
Charlotte Observer

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Beth was babysitting recently and while watching the children as they played outside, things took an abrupt turn…

The hurtful words flew out of the young woman’s mouth and hung ominously in the air… She obviously spoke out of annoyance and anger without really considering what she was saying or who all was there to hear what she said; had she given a passing thought to anything more than impressing her friends, she probably would have kept her mouth clamped tightly shut…

“I hope you get in a car wreck and die!” she yelled at her eleven year-old brother…

The oxygen whooshed from the air…

To her credit, Beth stayed calm and kept a cool demeanor as she dealt with the mouthy teenager…

“Miss Beth, I’m so sorry. I didn’t mean it, I was just mad because he won’t leave us alone!”

“You need to apologize to your brother and then go on up to your room. I can’t even talk to you right now… The rest of you, y’all should know that my brother passed away in a car accident four and a half years ago; I have to live with that knowledge every single day. You should never say something like that to anyone, because it could very easily happen. I would give anything to have Brian back, following me around and driving me crazy.”

Brian bugged her a lot, at least when they were elementary and middle school age. One of his favorite pastimes was to shadow Beth and her friends, trailing behind them (but always within their line of sight) as they rode bikes and rollerblades in our old neighborhood… Things changed a lot over the next ten years…

They weren’t the same when everything happened; Beth and Brian alternately ignored or tolerated each other, as situations demanded… I suspect this would have evolved again given another ten, except that time ran out…

And here we are…

So Beth did what we all do now; she shared the wisdom born of her own heartache to try and help others understand one inescapable truth: tomorrow is not promised to any of us….

It might have been over the heads of most of those teens, but I believe at least one of them won’t say such a terrible thing to her little brother again.

Well, maybe not for a while, anyway…

“Kindness is more important than wisdom…”-Theodore Isaac Rubin

Wishing you many blessings…tg

Tammy will update her blog twice weekly…

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