A Non-Traditional Best Man
Posted: Friday, Apr. 12, 2013
Ashleigh has been living in Charlotte since 2008 with her oversized yellow lab. She is a communications professional, grad student, runner, and lover of all things wedding! After attending 13 weddings in three years, it's now Ashleigh's turn to be at the altar. Join her as she blogs about her adventures in step-by-step wedding planning and tips for other brides-to-be!
One day, I came home with a great idea for the wedding and shared it with my groom. Surprise, surprise, he was thinking the same thing! However, this decision meant that we were going to be a little non-traditional with our wedding party, and thats fine, because thats totally us!
We were both in love with the idea of his younger sister being the best man, or best (wo)man in this case! My sweet husband-to-be is extremely close with his sister, so it seemed to make perfect sense. Of course, if he wasnt going to have her stand by his side, she most certainly would have been a bridesmaid, but alas, he had already considered it and was in the process of figuring out how to ask her. A lot of people have questioned this or asked me how I plan on making it work with a girl as the Best Man, and I just have to smile. If this is the biggest thing we have to worry about in making decisions on the wedding, I think were golden.
Family is really important to both of us. Not only are we close with our immediate families, but we both have large families that are amazing support systems. Making sure that we have the people who are most important to us surrounding us on our big day is way more important to us than following tradition or making sure we do things just like everyone else. Were also not having a flower girl or ring bearer, but that was our decision. Not because we dont love the darling children in our families but because that wasnt our vision for our wedding. I think weve done a good job of incorporating folks from both of the families into our big day. And yes, my big brother has a leading part as well!
I couldnt be happier about the best (wo)man decision, and cant imagine anyone else filling the part better!
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