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He Stayed...

By Carolina Sonshine on 04/22/13 10:05
Charlotte Observer

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I encouraged him to sit near the doors in case he changed his mind and wanted to exit quickly; I told him it was okay to leave the gym up until the minute I left his side and stepped forward to begin the presentation… Despite having an open pass to go, he stayed…

“After nearly four years, I figured it was time I saw what you do for myself.”

John was antsy from the minute we left the hotel… The drive took about twenty minutes, during which time he became quieter and quieter; I could feel him drawing into himself…not that I blamed him. He really didn’t know what to expect, nor did I, since his presence changed things.

We managed to miss the first entrance to the school and turned into the shared middle-school driveway instead; the parking lots were chaotic and confusing, full of departing buses and early-dismissal seniors. After stopping to ask three different groups of people for directions, we finally found the visitor parking area and the main office… Miraculously, we arrived on time…

As I worked with the media teacher to finish the setup, one of the Project Ignition team members introduced himself to John and kept him occupied for the next twenty minutes talking about the event, high school, his future plans and life in general... Shortly thereafter, approximately 335 students and staff members from E.A. Laney High School filled the bleachers and I shared Brian’s Story with them, including my usual slide show…

Of the entire narrative, I deliberately modified one sentence for John’s sake-the part where I explain why he prefers not to acknowledge his birthday anymore; otherwise, I spoke as if he wasn’t there…

When I was finished, though, I only had eyes for him. After a quick microphone handoff, I walked straight over to John and into a huge hug…

In that single moment, I knew he was alright with what he’d seen and heard…

I’ve long said that I cannot change anything for my own family, but maybe I can for someone else’s... He’s grown to understand why I feel so strongly about what I do, but now that John has witnessed the reaction of a large group of teens for himself, he really gets it now…

As hard as it was for him to hear, I think he needed to see with his own eyes that there is the potential for something good to come out of our nightmare.

And that’s the best we can hope for…

Wishing you many blessings…tg

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