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Posted: Friday, May. 03, 2013

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Ashleigh has been living in Charlotte since 2008 with her oversized yellow lab. She is a communications professional, grad student, runner, and lover of all things wedding! After attending 13 weddings in three years, it's now Ashleigh's turn to be at the altar. Join her as she blogs about her adventures in step-by-step wedding planning and tips for other brides-to-be!

Throughout my wedding planning experience, I’ve learned that everyone has an opinion about the decisions that we make. Some of those, I genuinely care about and trust what they have to say (typically, I ask for these), others, I’ve learned to smile when they share and carry on with whatever decision I had already made.

And just the other night, I saw posting by a college friend about how everyone had an opinion in her wedding planning (that she has just begun) and she’s already stressed out! The girl has only been engaged for a month! Too bad people don’t realize the impact they have on the bride and groom by pushing their own agendas or ideas that hard. Now, if it’s parents with a financial investment in the wedding, I do think they should get to have an opinion.

I’ve shared my opinion before as well, but now that I’ve been in the bride’s shoes, I have a better understanding of how opinions can be received. Opinions regarding who I should invite, what color chairs I should have, the date/time we have chosen or the food we are serving, really don’t need to be shared. That’s lovely if that’s how you would do it at “your wedding.” I hope you do. And I hope no one tries to make you feel guilty for doing otherwise.

At one of our engagement parties, someone told me that our guests are going to be happy for us on the day of no matter what decisions we have made, so we should do what makes us happy. After all, it is OUR wedding. This is probably one of the best pieces of advice I’ve gotten in this whole process.

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