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Blessed Indeed...

By Carolina Sonshine on 05/14/13 22:33
Charlotte Observer

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No matter how bad you think you have it, there’s always someone else who has it worse… It’s important to be thankful and remember that chances are, tomorrow will be a better day.

I learned this bit of wisdom and many others from my mom a long time ago.

Mother’s Day has been challenging for the last five years; I’ve never known what to do or exactly how to spend the day. I haven’t wanted a big deal made about it, because doing so would only emphasize that one of my collective was missing; he wouldn’t be calling or dropping a card off at some point during the day….

As painful as my reality is, I take comfort in the certainty that if he could have, Brian would have been right here.

It must be hard to have children who are able to, but for whatever reason, don’t reach out on the one day when all moms are supposed to reign supreme…

Last month I finally met the elderly couple residing next to the farm house John has under renovation. On Sunday I was over there helping John paint the exterior; Gracie brought us lunch and right before she left, I pointed out the ‘poison ivy tree’ that her Uncle Mike accidentally left standing on the edge of the new driveway. We ran into Miss Ann along the gravel road…

We said hello, I wished her a happy Mother’s Day and introduced Grace…

We talked about our collaborative landscaping plans for the property line and Miss Ann showed me a rogue azalea she found in the woods for us to move… As we walked back towards our houses, she confided that she hadn’t heard from her children: no cards, no calls, nothing…

I couldn’t think of an appropriate response other than to say “I’m sorry.”

The hurt of being forgotten was plain to see, even as she tried to explain it away… “My daughter and her family, they’re extremely busy, and of course, my son, when he married her, he gravitated to her side... It’s okay; Smithy said we might go out for a hamburger at Sonic later this afternoon…”

I’m far from being a perfect mom or daughter, but my family means everything to me. I cannot imagine a scenario where I wouldn’t at least call my mother on Mother’s Day or I wouldn’t hear from our girls.

I am blessed beyond measure…

It is that time again...incredibly, we have survived nearly five years since losing Brian. Please, don't use your phone while driving. If you need a 'Remember Brian 06-12-08' bracelet to help you remember to be smarter than your phone, just ask. They are free. We don't want anyone else to lose their life over the press of a button... rememberbrian@mindspring.com

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