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Posted: Friday, May. 17, 2013

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Ashleigh has been living in Charlotte since 2008 with her oversized yellow lab. She is a communications professional, grad student, runner, and lover of all things wedding! After attending 13 weddings in three years, it's now Ashleigh's turn to be at the altar. Join her as she blogs about her adventures in step-by-step wedding planning and tips for other brides-to-be!

We are in the home-stretch for our wedding, three months as of today! We’re finalizing last minute details, including our vows. We said in the beginning that we didn’t plan to have traditional vows or readings at our wedding, but my groom also just informed me that he doesn’t want to write his own vows.

I’m trying to creatively come up with a way for him not to have to feel as though he is “giving a speech” but to also be using our own words at the wedding, so that we can avoid traditional vows. A dear friend who is also getting married this August shared some helpful websites with me that she and her fiancé have used to get ideas for their vows.

We have heard all sorts of vows used at weddings, the traditional/religious ceremony, completely their own vows, one set of vows we didn’t know was being said because it was over so quickly, and last weekend, we had friends get married who wrote and said things about each other that were read as part of the ceremony. Something about the self-written vows has always touched me. Maybe it’s the honesty of them or the emotion that is shown when they are read or said. I just feel like there is something special about speaking from your heart in front of the people who mean the most to you both.

I know that no matter what we do, it will be perfect, but the vows are something that we’ll have forever in our hearts, so they definitely require some extra planning and care. Our plan is to work on this over the weekend, while also looking at wedding bands!

I would love to hear how you decided on your vows and any recommendations you have that can help me or other brides decide! Share with us on Facebook!

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