Eating with a girlfriend we realize we’re both traveling solo to Charleston and back on the same days. How did we not know this? Because it’s summer and nobody knows where anybody is or what they’re doing.
It’s not for a lack of asking. We all ask one another what we’re doing, but the answer goes like this:
“We’re here. Then at the beach. Then one kid does soccer camp, while the other does Lego camp, then we pick them up, visit grandparents, then we’re here. But then gone for the weekend, because we have a voucher in Vegas we have to use, but here for the Fourth, leaving that weekend for the mountains, but then we’re back …”
Should I be writing all this down? Because I have no idea what day it is and I can’t keep all this straight. My son asks whether Will’s in town, and this crazy loud montage starts to play in my head “Vegas, camp, reunion, Italy, in-laws” and I’m like, how should I know?! I’m too busy returning texts from folks asking me where I AM!
Moms, we need to get organized. We need a group spreadsheet, like an Excel document that we start filling out in January. If we take our family vacations the same week, then we’re all back the same time, so when the kids ask “NOW what are we gonna do?” we know we can send them down the street.
We can put the kids in camp at the same time and carpool. And then go do something that doesn’t require a snack and a change of clothes. Or we could send them to overnight camp for a week, and then all go to Vegas, voucher or not.
And there could be some semblance of our lives before summer. Summer hits and we drop everything because nobody’s here at the same time. But if we had a spreadsheet, book club could continue, we could celebrate birthdays on our birthdays and still have girls’ night. And there would always be someone to talk to or go walk with.
Same for the kids. Instead of pouring through the school directory, having us call every classmate to see whether they’re in town, they just look at the spreadsheet. Have the contact info on there so we don’t have to make the calls. If we group families in a 2-mile radius, we don’t even have to drive.
We could plan play dates, group dates and double dates. We could do a meal co-op. We could take turns and pair up for the dreaded things like theme parks, water parks and Chuck E. Cheese. And we’d never a miss a single thing during summer because if we’re all out of town at the same time, there won’t be anything going on.
Oh well. Maybe next summer. Just glad to have a ride to Charleston.