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Posted: Thursday, Jul. 25, 2013

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Originally from England, Sarah Ryberg has lived in Charlotte for the last 12 years and is a graduate of UNC Charlotte. After two whirlwind weddings - one in Charlotte and another in her homeland - Sarah is settling into married life and learning what it takes to be a Mrs. You can reach Sarah at sarahmryberg@yahoo.com

I feel like my blogs haven't been as meaty lately, but it's been a busy couple of months. From us both applying for new job opportunities to our quick road trip to Atlanta, life has been a little on the hectic side. At the same time, I've been trying to do some soul searching. The uncertainties we've faced over the last three years have changed us both, and as we start to find a path to stability, I find myself adjusting again.

In college, I was always excited about my future. I graduated with a 4.0 GPA and I felt GREAT! When times got hard for Robert and I, I'll admit that enthusiasm vanished. It took a year or two before it happened, but it's challenging to stay positive when you are constantly getting rejection emails. I kept pushing myself to stay positive and remember that the right position will come along, but that was easier to say than feel.

I regret how much I've let my disappointment affect my life. It's personal to talk about and something I've debated discussing on here for a while. I'm sure a few blogs have hinted at these feelings and my attempts at staying positive. When it comes down to it though, I think it's important to share. I know I'm not the only one who is exhausted from the hunt for stability, and sometimes, knowing that you're not alone can be comforting. In our case, Hubby and I have both faced unemployment more than once, and feeling that we can't support ourselves is both frightening and discouraging. Even though I may not like facing these feelings or admitting they are there, I think it's import to acknowledge them as a part of the emotional process.

Now that our lives have finally found stability, I'm trying to pull myself out of these feelings and get back to being positive. I'm finding ways to remind myself of all our blessings and I look for little things to look forward to every week.There are still a few months of instability to get through and a lot I have to be patient for (which I'm learning is not my strongest skill). Robert has to remind me that our situation is finally turning around, and although it will take a while, our time is coming.

I've got a lot of work to do in order to become positive and confident again. The important part is that I'm trying hard to get there and to use the turbulent months to make me stronger. In an economy that is still so unstable, I think that's all you can really do.

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