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Practice Makes Perfect

Posted: Friday, Jul. 26, 2013

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Ashleigh has been living in Charlotte since 2008 with her oversized yellow lab. She is a communications professional, grad student, runner, and lover of all things wedding! After attending 13 weddings in three years, it's now Ashleigh's turn to be at the altar. Join her as she blogs about her adventures in step-by-step wedding planning and tips for other brides-to-be!

Last week we received a darling invite to our rehearsal dinner, hosted by my wonderful, soon-to-be in-laws. At the same time, I got a flood of emails from our coordinator, photographer and DJ asking for schedules, addresses, updated info, etc. Oh, did I mention I'm in the middle of starting a new job, just three little weeks before my wedding?

So, I've been digging through them, every chance I get and in between writing checks in amounts that hurt my heart. Somewhere in the midst of this, I realized that we hadn't even given our wedding party a run-down of the details they needed to know about the rehearsal or day of the wedding. Lucky for my fiance, I am a pro at writing emails, so I quickly drafted a template that we could send to our respective sides.

Being the perfectionist that I am, or as particular as I am, or controlling as some may call it, it was hard for me not to type, "DON'T YOU DARE BE LATE." But I'm trusting that my guests got that from, "it is imperative that everyone be on time as we are only allotted ONE hour to rehearse at the venue."

Ideally, I would like to run through things 2-3 times while we are there (I'm sure my coordinator has this all planned out), but I don’t want everyone to sweat to death. This will be the first time our entire wedding party will be together, and will be interesting to see how everything flows. It will certainly ease my mind if we can make things as darn near perfect as possible in that hour. Luckily, the rehearsal dinner is afterwards and I can have a glass of wine to ease my mind the rest of the way.

The wedding invite list was stressful, deciding where to budget money was stressful, but for me, counting on a dozen other people to handle the biggest day of my life is by far the most stressful. I want to have my hand in everything and preview and review everything to make sure it's JUST RIGHT before any guests see it. This will likely not be possible on the day of and I'll have to relinquish some of my "controlling" nature and let everyone do their thing. So here's to putting my big day in the hands of friends, family and paid wedding-industry-members alike. Deep breaths!

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