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Hakuna Matata

Posted: Tuesday, Aug. 20, 2013

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Ashleigh has been living in Charlotte since 2008 with her oversized yellow lab. She is a communications professional, grad student, runner, and lover of all things wedding! After attending 13 weddings in three years, it's now Ashleigh's turn to be at the altar. Join her as she blogs about her adventures in step-by-step wedding planning and tips for other brides-to-be!

It’s finally my “wedding week” and I’m just one day away from walking down the aisle in my favorite white dress. We’ve been very calm and collected this week. Actually, so calm and collected that people have commented on it over and over again. After watching the Lion King production on Sunday, we’ve decided that “Hakuna Matata” is a pretty good mantra.

My favorite pieces of advice that have been shared with us are:

1. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Things are bound to happen that are out of your control and little things might happen that won’t matter in the long run. Focus on the day, the moment, and being with the groom.

For me, this is THE big one. I do sweat the small stuff. I have this beautiful vision in my head of our wedding day and a major stress-er has been everything not falling into place as laid out in my head. However, I cannot control the weather and currently we have a 70% chance of rain. I will have to make the call tomorrow on weather my wedding will be inside or outside (there might be tears), but in the grand scheme of things, I’m still getting to marry the guy of my dreams and will have ALL of the most important people in our lives in one room for an entire night and THAT’S what is important.

2. Focus on the marriage, not just the wedding. A lot of time goes into planning a wedding. Even before the engagement, there were boards on Pinterest with loads of crafty wedding ideas. But the wedding is only one day and the marriage will last a lifetime. So there has to be effort figuring out how you will deal with the little and big things that arise in life. For some this is pre-marital counseling for others it’s reading books (e.g. The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman). We’ve spent four years together, discussed money, kids, and we’ve already had to have the discussion about moving for jobs. We complement each other. The marriage is our first priority, although the wedding will be amazing.

3. Don’t forget to eat. For this girl, you don’t have to tell me to eat. But supposedly, you get so wrapped up in everything else that you “forget” to on your wedding day. Not once have I “forgotten” to eat in my life and I don’t intend to on Saturday. PS, we are having the biggest, most Southern meal at our wedding. We will be enjoying it along with our guests.

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