Dear readers, I owe you an apology. During my six years as a food writer, I have often blithely assured you that it is easy to get weeknight dinners on the table.
Then I had a baby.
I soon learned that cooking dinner on a weeknight is not so easy to do, especially after a long day of work, especially with a toddler underfoot, especially if you have done no planning. And so, Ive spent the last 22 months learning new strategies for tackling weeknight meals and trying to avoid the I give up pizza delivery order. (I dont want to make anyone feel bad about making that call. This daily chore is hard, harder than I ever imagined, and the occasional pizza delivery isnt going to hurt anybody.)
To make it up to you (and learn a few things myself), I asked more experienced working parents to share their advice. I pored through cookbooks and interviewed the authors. What I have learned is there are two approaches to weeknight meals: the pantry method and the planning method. Home cooks tend to fall into one of those two camps.
Those in the pantry camp stock their kitchen so well that they always have ingredients for at least a few go-to recipes. They may cook more based on what they feel like eating, stopping at the store to supplement whats on hand. I suspect these are folks who can open the refrigerator and make a delicious meal based on whatever they find inside.
Those in the planning camp fall somewhere along a broad spectrum. Some people plan the proteins that they will make during the week, and fill in on the starches and the vegetables based on what they bought at the farmers market or have in the freezer. Some people, like me, write down what they will cook each night of the week. Some are rigid about their meal plans. Others are more flexible.
The best trick Ive found when planning a weeks menus is this: Write down not only whats for dinner that night but what needs to be done ahead of time for the next nights dinner. That may be making rice for fried rice or pulling tomato sauce and pizza dough out of the freezer.
Here are the best gems of advice from each person that I interviewed. What you find helpful will depend upon what camp you fall into and your familys weekly routine, your childrens ages and your own cooking abilities.
From the pantry proponents
Frank Scholle, a microbiology professor at N.C. State University, doesnt like to plan ahead. I dont know what I feel like eating on a given day, he explained. Instead, he runs to the grocery store each day after work, then picks up his 6-year-old daughter and 3-year-old son before heading home to make dinner. This works because Scholle avoids elaborate meals on weeknights. He cooks simple but good food: turkey tacos, pasta with a quick homemade tomato sauce, breakfast for supper using eggs from their backyard flock of chickens.
Jennifer Perillo, author of Homemade with Love cookbook and In Jennies Kitchen blog, also prefers not to plan too far ahead. I cant stress enough that having a well-stocked pantry puts you in charge and not the clock, Perillo said. The items Perillo always must have on hand reflect her Italian heritage: canned tomatoes, onions, garlic, fresh herbs such as basil and parsley, butter and oil and pasta.
The only planning she will do is for breakfast. She will often assemble the dry ingredients for waffles, muffins or pancakes the night before. Theres something psychological about having it done and just having to crack an egg, she said.
Robin Miller, host of Quick Fix Meals on the Food Network, lets the grocery store be her guide. She buys whatever protein is on sale or what looks the freshest. Instead of buying what she will need for one meal, she buys double the amount. When shes cooking a starch for a meal, shell cook twice as much as shell need for one meal so she has leftovers for a later meal. With starches and proteins ready to go, Miller said she can easily weave in vegetables.
Miller says parents should never feel guilty about using products that can make this daily task easier: chopped vegetables, pesto, bottled sauces. You are still cooking for your family, she said. You are still sitting down at the table together as a family.
From the planning crowd
Merrill Hacker, a teacher who lives outside Charlotte and the mother of three children, tries to work ahead as much as possible. Hacker will chop vegetables, marinate meats or double a batch of rice to use the leftovers later in the week. Anchoring this effort is a meal plan that she writes on the weekends with input from her husband, her daughter and her two stepdaughters who live with them on the weekends.
Jenny Rosenstrach, author of Dinner, a Love Story cookbook and blog, echoes that idea. If one parent is the primary cook, the other can at least help with ideas. Often, the regular cook can get stumped or in a rut and needs inspiration. The best part, if your children suggest a meal, they are more likely to eat it.
Planning ahead is key to Rosenstrach, whose cookbook details the evolution of her approach to dinner as her children have grown. I think planning no matter what stage you are in has to be part of the equation, she said. You should have the think work out of the way. That way you know what you are doing when you enter the kitchen.
April McGreger, owner of Carrboro-based Farmers Daughter Brand pickles and preserves and the mother of a 2 1/2-year-old son, takes another approach. Instead of planning a weeks worth of meals, she identifies the proteins and starches they will eat that week. Shell roast a whole chicken on a Sunday and use the leftovers as a base for a second meal. She will make a double batch of rice or pasta. She blanches vegetables in batches.
Overall, McGreger, a former pastry chef at Lantern restaurant in Chapel Hill, finds herself cooking more like her mother did. She uses a slow cooker, which she never thought she would. She refers to the community cookbooks that her mother did. She cooks simple meals and then puts out condiments, like hot sauce or chowchow for her husband and herself. This is the time of fairly simple cooking, McGreger said. Were not having spicy Thai curries for the next few years.
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