Okay, everybody else has weighed in, so here goes…
Ironically, I only saw ‘it’ because I was waiting to see ‘N SYNC. And I’m not embarrassed to admit that, because in the end I fell on the side of classy and am happy to don a ‘team Justin’ T-shirt. Especially because the ‘team Miley’ T’s are midriff-baring tank tops, that you can’t wear an undergarment with.
So I’m exposed to the provocative, half-naked, berserk-twerk-dancing Miley Cyrus on the VMA’s last Sunday night.
What am I missing here? Is no one asking the basic questions, because for me it’s real simple, and it starts with: Would I do that? Absolutely not. (Those foam fingers make my hands sweat and I’m allergic to latex.)
Would I want my daughter to do that? No. What I want my son to date that? Not in this lifetime. Why does this girl want to put herself out there and be that person?
Some would argue she’s a performer and playing a role. Does it have to be that role? Because outside of pure shock value, I don’t see what it offers. It makes me feel bad, and empty, and terrified about the direction some of this music and these performers are taking our kids in.
Willie Geist of the “Today Show” calls it a Disney over-correction. I agree. When the headlines scream “Hannah Montana Is Dead!” somebody really has been killed off. And what does that say to our kids that the American girl-next-door has got to go, and that THIS is the new way to be?
Interestingly, a few weeks ago, in stark contrast to this, the clip that was buzzing around social media was Ashton Kutcher speaking at the Teen Choice Awards. Listing keys to success, he said, “the sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart, and being thoughtful and being generous. Everything else is just crap that people try to sell to you, to make you feel like less.”
Isn’t this sort of what happened last Sunday? I definitely feel like I was getting sold something that I don’t want my kids to buy into. Maybe because what’s sexy to me is more in line with intelligence, thoughtfulness, and generosity.
I don’t know how to teach children to embrace these qualities in another, but I think it starts with not accepting the “crap” that’s being put in front of us as being just the way it is now.
Because look at Justin Timberlake. A child of Disney who didn’t kill off his 90’s boy band, but rather grew from it, then celebrated it at the VMA’s, having grown into the intelligent man and tremendous performer that he is today. He gave the best performance of the night, and he didn’t need foam, or latex, or dancing bears to do it. And that’s the way it should be.
Hope Miley can get in sync.