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Temperamental Temperament

09/09/13 22:27
Charlotte Observer

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Based on the last two versions of my bible, I’ve concluded the author of Proverbs must have been a man.  Or at least the person who translated it was…

 

 

 

A new acquaintance recently quoted one Proverb in particular: “Better to live on the corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” –Proverbs 21:9

 

 

 

He said it in a half-hearted joking manner while we discussed various issues going on in our lives.

 

 

 

At the time, I simply laughed it off, but truthfully, it bugged me.  Why is it always assumed that the woman is the problem?  I mean, isn’t it possible that her husband is reason behind her unpleasant attitude?

 

 

 

It is tough to be in the position of living and working with your spouse.  While it definitely has advantages, certain problems pop up on a regular basis.  When spending so much time together, it’s easy to lose your temper and unload on each other in a way that you wouldn’t dream of doing with a normal coworker.  We never seem to be able to leave the office behind at the end of the workday; we’re always open for business.  And I’ve found our expectations of each other are significantly greater than what we have for regular colleagues; when one of us disagrees with the other, it’s not a pretty sight.

 

 

 

Sometimes I think about the way things used to be and it makes me wonder if we would be working together in this way had the great sorrow not eclipsed our world…  Would we be willing or able to tolerate being together so much?

 

 

 

I know it crosses John’s mind too…  When we have a major meltdown moment-as in verbal daggers hurtling between us at terminal velocity-I question the wisdom of continuing down this path.

 

 

 

But I don’t know what else to do; it’s what I’m trained for.  I’ve followed his lead for more than a decade, working with and supporting him in his endeavors and chosen field.

 

 

 

It’s a bit frightening to think about finding a new career…again…but for the sake of our relationship, clearly it’s something we need to discuss and consider more seriously.

 

 

 

Maybe there is such a thing as too much togetherness…

 

 

 

 

 

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