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Save or Splurge?

Posted: Monday, Sep. 23, 2013

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Originally from England, Sarah Ryberg has lived in Charlotte for the last 12 years and is a graduate of UNC Charlotte. After two whirlwind weddings - one in Charlotte and another in her homeland - Sarah is settling into married life and learning what it takes to be a Mrs. You can reach Sarah at sarahmryberg@yahoo.com

Over the last few months, I've had a few people ask me about weddings and budgets. The question is, looking back now, do I regret what we spent on the wedding? Could we have saved for our future instead of investing so much into one day?

The answer to that question is slightly complicated. If you've been reading this blog since the beginning, you will know that our first years as Mr. and Mrs. have been a financial struggle. Having some of our wedding money stored away definitely would have helped, but the money wasn't ours to begin with. Not only did my dad pay for our wedding, but we also had two of them.

If saving money meant that we couldn't have a blessing in England, I'd have chosen to splurge every time. I think my parents would agree with that statement too. I'd have been disappointed if my family couldn't have celebrated with us.

However, I do know more about planning a wedding than I did then. I've discovered so many ways to decorate on a dime, while still capturing the story you are trying to tell. If we were planning our wedding now, I would budget more effectively and save my dad some money. At the same time, I don't have any regrets about the way our wedding turned out. Although I know the marriage is what is important, I love weddings, and it was so important to me that ours told our story. I cared about the details, wowing our guests, and making the most of this special occasion.

Those feelings aren't the same for everyone and it comes down to deciding what's really important in telling your story. Not everything is necessary to the overall picture and deciding what is (like food, centerpieces, and the gown) can help you budget more effectively.

Do you have any wedding regrets? Looking back, do you wish you'd saved where you splurged?

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