From the moment you get engaged, it seems everyone has some wedding know-how to share. A lot of these tips are helpful; some are borderline disastrous. We asked brides for the worst wedding advice they’ve heard. Here’s what not to do when you plan a wedding.
Bad Advice: “The worst wedding advice anyone has told me was to sing our vows to each other.” – Erin, Richmond, Va.
Our Advice: We totally encourage personalizing your wedding vows, but unless you moonlight as opera singers, leave the “American Idol” aspirations for the wedding after-party.
Bad Advice: “I was told that if the groom was unavailable during the toast, the bride has to kiss the best man.” – Anonymous
Our Advice: Making out with the best man at the reception is a great idea – if your wedding happens to fall on Opposite Day.
Bad Advice: “My mother-in-law said that it was perfectly fine to spend $9 a plate on dinner for our guests. She based this on my sister-in-law’s wedding, where they served cold meat sandwiches, au gratin potatoes, and questionable-looking fruit salad.” – Morgan, Madison Wis.
Our Advice: Food is one detail every guest remembers. Whatever your budget, you should allot about 40 percent of it for wedding catering. Work with your caterer to prepare a menu within your budget and try to cut costs in other ways (like by trimming your wedding guest list) rather than skimp on the meal.
Bad Advice: “I was recently a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. I’m also engaged and was amazed when she told me I couldn’t wear my engagement ring during her wedding because it was larger than hers … ridiculous!” – Scarlet, Longview, Texas.
Our Advice: Being upstaged by a bridesmaid can be a very real fear for some brides. Handle the situation gently – explain that you’d rather not take off the ring for personal reasons. If she persists, remove it to avoid more drama.
Bad Advice: “My fiance suggested we randomize the seating for all our guests because it would be cool for everyone to meet new people. I can just imagine my crazy friend from grad school and Aunt June at the same table. Yikes!” – Vicki, Durham, N.C.
Our Advice: This idea is only partly off-track. To mix tables with a few people who don’t know each other is a good way to bring everyone together at the reception. But don’t put anyone at a table with no one else they know, and spare Aunt June the stress by seating like-mannered guests together.
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