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Today's kids need tough teachers, not easy As.

10/22/13 21:58
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The most valuable course I took in high school was typing.

My typing teacher – I do not remember her name – walked around the room with a yardstick in her hand. She used it to whack us on our backs when our posture was the slightest bit off and on the backs of our hands when our hand positions were not proper. I received a good number of these whackings. She was mean. None of us liked her. She didn’t care. She was there to teach, not be popular.

Creative writing – also taken during my sophomore year – comes in a close second. One day, while the class was busy writing something, Mrs. Grimsley called me to her desk. In a voice purposefully loud enough that the whole class stopped writing and watched me squirm, she told me that my latest theme was “trash.”

She handed it back to me, told me to do it over, and made it clear that the best grade I could hope for was a C. To say that I was humiliated is an understatement. By the way, I had most definitely turned in hastily written trash, hoping she’d let her best student slide. No such luck.

Neither of these teachers would be allowed to teach today, not unless they repented of their evil ways, which I suspect neither would do. Mind you, I thank these two teachers to this day. In my school years, no teachers made a more positive contribution to my life than these two meanies. Both of them cared about me.

A recent study found that teachers who are demanding and critical when criticism is due, do the best job of bringing out the best in their students.

The touchy-feelies are more well-liked, mind you, but their students don’t give them their best. They slack off, because they intuitively know those teachers are touchy-feely when they hand out grades. Billy did C work, but Billy gets a B from Mrs. Imok-Youreok because Billy needs “encouragement.” All the kids really like Mrs. Imok-Youreok. Their parents do too!

It was recently announced that the Charlotte-based Duke Endowment is giving Davidson, Duke, Johnson C. Smith, and Furman universities $3.4 million to study why so many of today’s college students report high levels of stress and anxiety and find ways of enhancing their “resiliency,” which the project defines as the ability to thrive despite adversity.

I will tell these institutions, for free, why today’s college students find it so difficult to cope. It’s because they have never had to deal with high expectations, demands and high standards enforced by the likes of my typing and creative writing teachers. It’s because if they ever had, their parents would have screamed bloody murder, administration would have caved in, and the meanies would have been replaced by the likes of Mrs. Imok-Youreok.

It takes $3.4 million to figure this out? The trustees of The Duke Endowment ought to be ashamed of themselves for wasting all this money. They need a good whacking with a yardstick.

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