Commitment Made |


I am a mother of three, sharing my journey of hope and survival following the loss of our son...

Commitment Made

By Carolina Sonshine on 10/29/13 21:52
Charlotte Observer

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“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown in the scrap heap.” –George Bernard Shaw




While I cannot agree that for me it’s joyful, there is definite comfort knowing I’ve done all I can in a particular endeavor.




Every night for the last three weeks, John and I had similar conversations, which concluded in basically the same manner:  “You’re too involved with it; you know you can’t take this stuff personally.”




Maybe he’s right, but I cannot help it any more than I can help having freckles or gray hair…it IS personal to me.  It doesn’t get any more personal than this.




When I climb the stairs each night and see the faint glow shining from Brian’s window, I’m reminded of how personal this effort and our mission I can ever forget…




Some may think I’m crazy; others could see me as obsessed…either of which, at any given moment, might be partly true…




But when you consider that on November 6th, a mere week from now, Brian Christopher would have celebrated his twenty-third birthday, surely it’s understandable.




My family’s tragedy was entirely preventable. 




I sit tonight, unsuccessfully trying to force myself to rest and enjoy an evening of respite from the flurry of activity filling my days since this school year began…




The fact that this IS personal fuels my passion for prevention and outreach.  Indeed, I move heaven and earth to keep from ever saying no…




It is in the telling, followed by the doing that restores my resolve to carry on for another day.




There are people who tell themselves there’s no need to get involved because it’s someone else’s problem; others believe there’s no need to worry, because somebody else will do something about it…  Some say “Sorry, but I don’t care because it has no direct effect on my life” or “Why bother? There’s nothing in it for me…”




But on this particular subject, I’m done with excuses. I’m taking action. We are all interconnected… What affects one of us affects us all, even when it’s less than obvious.




If no one ever jumped in and made an effort, nothing would ever get done in this world.




My heartfelt appreciation goes out to everyone who participated in “Celebrate My Drive”…  No matter what the final commitment tally turns out to be, teen driver safety awareness was raised, which is what we set out to do.  Thanks for helping make our roadways safer to travel…




Tammy will update her blog twice weekly…


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