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Gone Visiting...

By Carolina Sonshine on 11/04/13 15:06
Charlotte Observer
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I did something a few days ago which I haven’t done since I don’t know when…  I spent three hours visiting friends without the slightest concern for the time; I felt no pressure to hurry up and get going so I could complete the next item on my endless to-do list.  I had nowhere else I needed to go, and more importantly, I was exactly where I wanted to be.

 

 

 

What occasion quelled my sense of urgency?  One of those friends had returned safely home from the hospital after undergoing major surgery a week earlier.

 

 

 

The necessity for the procedure had come about quickly, although for her, not nearly soon enough.  An annual checkup and a casual comment about an annoying cough turned into something far more complicated than a lingering infection.  In just a few short weeks, this dear friend went from celebrating a milestone birthday to battling a life-threatening disease and facing an unknown prognosis…

 

 

 

I’d wanted to visit for several days following the surgery but held off for a number of reasons, some of which were altruistic, others which were entirely self-serving…  First and foremost, she was admitted at CMC-Main, a place I’d not returned to since we left there without Brian.  Second, given the broad sweep of her friends and family circle, I felt certain she had entertained more than enough company from the confines of her hospital room.  Third, I’d spent most of the last two weeks surrounded by thousands of teenagers; although I felt fine, I didn’t want to risk an unknown ‘bug’ riding shotgun on my good intentions…  And last, I was bone-weary tired and probably not the best company.  So I waited…

 

 

 

When I finally sat down in her den on Thursday afternoon, I blinked back a few tears…  It was thrilling to finally see her for myself: sitting up, finely dressed and chatting as though nothing of import had transpired in her life… 

 

 

 

I was struck by the comfortable ordinariness of it…except I knew it was anything but ordinary.

 

 

 

One minute life is going along exactly the way you expect, and within the span of a single telephone call, nothing is ever the same again…

 

 

 

She has been a steadfast friend, confidante and mentor for many years now, frequently serving as a beacon of light as I struggle onward through this dark valley.  I cannot imagine life without her wisdom and camaraderie…

 

 

 

Her illness has reminded me yet again of how fragile life is and how quickly the days of our lives pass.  And how important it is to spend time with those you care about while you can…

 

 

 

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” -C.S. Lewis

 

 

 

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