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The Dreaded Name Change

Posted: Friday, Nov. 15, 2013

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Ashleigh has been living in Charlotte since 2008 with her oversized yellow lab. She is a communications professional, grad student, runner, and lover of all things wedding! After attending 13 weddings in three years, it's now Ashleigh's turn to be at the altar. Join her as she blogs about her adventures in step-by-step wedding planning and tips for other brides-to-be!

We are quickly approaching three months of blissful marriage. We have almost tackled all of our thank you notes, we managed to get rid of most of the wedding decorations that we no longer need, and yet, I still have my maiden name. It’s not for lack of trying to change it, though.

Early in our engagement, I bought a deal for Miss Now Mrs., a service that “helps” you change your name post-wedding. The service provides you with a list of forms for different areas of your life (social security, bank accounts, passport, etc.) which you may want to change your name and it does successfully copy some of the repetitive information over from form to form for you. The help ends there, as you are the responsible party for marching to the various offices to change your name, or mail off forms, identification and checks.

I spent an afternoon filling out all of these forms, which I still have, but you have to go in order. The starting point is the Social Security Administration, which is located on the complete opposite side of the city from me. You do have the option to mail your marriage license and passport/drivers license to them, but I am too cautious to risk those being lost.

I finally took time off work this past week to go to the SSA and start the process. Did anyone else remember that government agencies are closed on Veteran’s Day? This girl did not. So today, I again drove to the SSA, rode the elevator to the third floor, and saw a big sign that says their hours have changed and they close at 3 P.M. I arrived at 4:10 P.M.

I am beginning to think that perhaps I’m not meant to change my name on anything other than my email signature. I was convinced that the DMV was going to be the most difficult, but I’m not sure I’ll ever even make it to the DMV. At this rate, we’re going to have different last names forever.

Do you have any tips to offer on making the name changing process easier for other brides-to-be or recent brides?

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