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About Mother's day...

05/24/14 21:49
Charlotte Observer
  • The Grad J GARLOCK

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The morning before Mother’s day, I found myself smack dab in the middle of a friendly disagreement…  An acquaintance declared his belief that Mother’s day is a pagan holiday.  I was caught off guard by his statement; eventually I recovered enough to respond: “I might agree with it being a Hallmark kind of holiday, but to say its ‘pagan’ is ridiculous.  Not every holiday is a religious one.  And besides, I like celebrating my mom!”

 

 

 

My sixth Mother’s day without Brian came and went with the ‘pagan’ comment permeating my thoughts… 

 

 

 

I wondered how the mother of this individual felt; surely his disdain was about commercialization, not about her…  Did my children feel like he did?  Hopefully not; I’ve never forced them to celebrate this or any other occasion, nor have I ever felt coerced into doing so myself…

 

 

 

I know quite a few people (my parents and many of my friends) who would give anything to have a chance to honor their mothers one last time…

 

 

 

I come from a long line of strong women...my mom and grandmothers greatly influenced who I’ve become…  Taking extra time to declare Mom’s importance one Sunday a year doesn’t make me irreligious or a heathen; I’m fortunate, and for that, I’m thankful.

 

 

 

There are a lot of people who aren’t as blessed…

 

 

 

In fact, I attended the college graduation of one of them last weekend.  With all of this weighing heavily on my mind, I wrestled with finding the right words to congratulate her while acknowledging her mother’s absence…

 

 

 

“Life is defined by moments…those we wish never occurred and others we hope to never forget…  We are shaped and molded by these experiences, constantly evolving and changing in response to the forces at work in our lives.

 

 

 

Tomorrow is a huge moment for you, as this part of your life comes to a close and you stand on the threshold of the big, bright future you’ve been working so hard to reach…

 

 

 

I’m guessing the shine is a bit tarnished and probably feels a little bittersweet, as you march forward to embrace your future missing one person more than anything.

 

 

 

While I haven’t faced your challenges or presume to know the depth of your pain, I do understand the empty place in your heart and home.

 

 

 

I never had the privilege of meeting your mom; however I feel I know her quite well…

 

 

 

I see the best of her in your smile, your determination, your generosity and the loving care you have taken (and continue to take) with your family.

 

As a mom, I can safely say we all strive to pour the best of ourselves into our children.  Your mom is reflected in you…she is part of you and with you always.”

 

 

 

“A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.”-Author Unknown

 

 

 

Wishing you blessings and hope…tg

 

 

 

Tammy will update her blog weekly…

 

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