Don’t be a bridezilla!
03/30/2009 5:31 PM
06/03/2011 4:46 PM
From the moment you become engaged, things can seem like a whirlwind no matter how much planning you’ve done. There is so much to think about, and so much to do. While having a wedding coordinator can be a tremendous help, many girls choose to attempt this arduous task themselves. Here are some things that you’ll want to consider when planning and preparing:
Be respectful. While searching for vendors to work with, remember that while you’re experiencing all of this for the first and most likely only time, this is their everyday business. If you’re inquiring about rates, don’t simply call and ask, “How much do you charge?” After all, you want to know what you get for those prices, whom you’ll be working with, a list of references, etc. Do some preliminary studying. Look at the options, and once you’ve narrowed your choices, take the time to meet with vendors to determine if you can envision a working relationship in the future. And please remember, while you are choosing your vendors, do have the courtesy to let each know whether you’ve selected them or not. It’s important, and a simple phone call is all it takes.
Do your homework. Trust us, we know all the decisions you need to make. Most likely you won’t have made all your decisions beforehand (and if you have, hats off to you!) For you non-type A’s, do some research. Read other wedding stories, look through ads and/or pictures, contemplate the feeling/theme that you’d like, and don’t forget to consider a budget for each aspect. Consider all of these factors in making your decisions. Thinking these things through ahead of time will help you feel less overwhelmed.
Work efficiently and effectively. So you’ve investigated your options, and you’ve got a good idea of what you want. Don’t waste either your time or the time of companies that obviously don’t provide what you’re seeking. Find and make appointments where you feel you’ll get the service you’re looking for. If you’ve shopped wisely, chances are your answers are right around the corner. Once they materialize, ensure all questions are answered. Find out what you’ll be getting – and what not – and request all of this information in writing. Don’t be bashful – no one will look down on you for asking, and you’re setting yourself up for smooth sailing.
Chill out! Look, when you’ve got so many decisions to make, and so many people involved, it’s safe to say that things may not be 100% perfect – and that’s perfectly OK! You may not get your first choice in all areas, and because people all have their own opinions, someone is bound to not agree with something. So just try to go with the flow and enjoy this time, as it will fly. Lighten up, and pat yourself on the back – you’ve already made the biggest and best decision possible. You’re getting married! And what could be better than that?
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