Honor of your presence

04/02/2009 9:30 PM

11/11/2011 6:03 PM

Making your guest list can be a bit stressful. Here are a few tips to make this unavoidable step a breeze:

As you begin to work on your guest list, keep your budget and reception location in mind (how many guests can your site accommodate?) Begin with family first, then start adding friends. You should feel no obligation to invite any particular individual, including the high school friend you no longer talk to, or your brother’s ex-girlfriend from six years ago. Remember, this is a very special day where you will want to be surrounded by those who are most important in your life.

A typical, fair breakdown is as follows: Parents of the bride – 30% Parents of the groom – 30% Bride and Groom – 40% Factors such as family size and location will alter these numbers, but this is a great starting point.

Family should be included as part of the parents’ lists, while the couple’s list should include only their friends.

A good rule of thumb is to assume that 70% of your invited guests will attend.

All invitees should receive a printed invitation. E-mails, e-vites or signs posted at work are absolutely unacceptable.

For distant relatives, coworkers, clients or others you feel would be interested, but understanding if not invited, a wedding announcement will suffice.

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