Q. Last week, a friend of mine lost her husband to cancer. I went to see her the next day, but I really felt awkward and didn't know what to say. How can I help someone like this?
You did the most helpful thing you could: You let your friend know you cared just by going to see her. She just needed to know you cared.
Do you remember Job in the Old Testament? He lost everything – his wealth, his children, his health, even the respect of his wife. But when three of his friends heard about it, the Bible says, “They set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him” (Job 2:11).
And once they arrived, “They sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him” (Job 2:13). Later, they would speak and try to help him – but not at first. Rushing in to give advice may only make the person hurt more.
Your friend doesn't need a deep theological lecture – but she does need to know that God loves her and understands her heartache.