Smiles and a change of conversation go a long way. “I appreciate your concern. But you might be surprised to know I’m actually feeling better than I have in a long time. How about you?”
Saying this like a broken record will help highlight the fact that their worries are misplaced and at the very least will halt that line of conversation.
And let your actions speak for themselves – moving on with your life, showing people that you have new interests and new activities, will eventually help them stop seeing you as a “newly divorced woman.”
Trust me: What you’re getting yourself into is much better than where you’ve already been. You’re otherwise on a very scary path here, especially if drinking is involved. You don’t say how long this has been going on, but my guess is that this is a combination of physiological and psychological factors – like depression or anxiety – and inadequate ways to cope.
It’s OK and normal to be scared of therapy. Still, it’s the best way out of a situation like this. It might take a few months; it might take a year. But you’ll learn the automatic, unconscious thoughts that are causing your emotions to sour and your behavior to follow. And you’ll develop much better, healthier ways of recognizing those triggers and coping with them.