You’re right in that breaking up might come with regrets. But so, too, may living out a life that’s filled with a stress-inducing, unstable relationship. I know you might be all therapied out. So dig deep – write, read, think, talk to friends, listen to music, get to know yourself better as an individual, and what you really want out of your life, and whether you truly see it involving your partner.
There’s a sad secret many couples therapists won’t tell you: Sometimes no amount of counseling can make a couple happy together.
Regardless, he’s continually pressuring you for romance, and that has no role in a healthy friendship (or an office, while we’re at it). If he’s a friend worth keeping, he will understand that he doesn’t have the right to continually make you uncomfortable.
Spell it out: “I will no longer keep talking about this. I hope to remain friends, but if you keep making me uncomfortable, our friendship is in jeopardy because I won’t spend time with you.” Then stick to it, and cut this column out as a permission slip to your parents to avoid these gatherings.
Andrea Bonior is a psychologist and author of “The Friendship Fix.” www.drandreabonior.com