You can’t picture it now – that’s the nature of the breakup beast – but closure will come on your own time, with perspective, the comfort and distraction of friends, interests, passions or just an occasional good bowl of pho. If you’re willing to write for my advice, hopefully you'll be willing to heed it: No long-term good is likely to come from continuing to contact him, despite how strong the urges are in the short term.
The important thing is that you’re honest with yourself about how much it bothers you, and if it’s significant, talk to her about it. You’re not complaining or accusing; you’re sharing something that’s been on your mind.
And in terms of her behavior, I’d urge you not to overanalyze because, depending on how she is with other male family members, it could be that what you interpret as flirtation is actually familial comfort and affection.
Andrea Bonior is a psychologist and author of “The Friendship Fix.” www.drandreabonior.com