Once they’ve said their piece, however, the drumbeat of their disapproval shouldn’t be allowed to create constant background noise. Sit them down and tell them that you have taken their objections into consideration, but that you hope they’ll keep an open mind. And be fair about your expectations. If you’re a heavy solicitor of their thoughts on what kind of pizza to order, then it doesn’t make sense for you to break out the gag order about one of the biggest aspects of your life.
That doesn’t mean she needs to let loose with a full-on postmortem. Tell her that if she believes in staying silent beforehand, then perhaps she could lessen her commentary a bit after the fact. And ask yourself: Are you letting her opinion matter even more because of the mystery that surrounds it? Presumably she thinks you’re doing just fine; don’t let this approval backfire so that you’re second-guessing yourself.