Dear Amy: I am 17 and will be a senior in high school. I have a job working at a clothing store at a mall about three miles away. I work with two of my very good friends, “Jerry” and “George.” We've been working at the mall for three months, on weekends and after school.
The problem is, the three of us carpool to work and George does not have his driver's license.
Jerry and I don't really mind alternating the driving, but next week Jerry is going on vacation for about three weeks, and I'm not really looking forward to having to drive George and myself every day. George doesn't seem interested in getting his license, or even his permit.
Do you have any advice on what to tell him and how to maintain our friendship in doing so?
Dear Nicole: There could be many reasons why “George” doesn't have his license – and most of these reasons don't have much to do with George. It takes the active participation of a parent (or another adult) to mentor a young driver through the steps necessary to get a license, and George may not have that support.
George needs to make sure he is contributing his fair share toward the use of your and Jerry's cars. He should chip in for one-third of the gas – and maybe a little extra because he is never driving.
You could also offer to help him study for his permit test, reassure him that it's easy and encourage him in a positive way to get going.