3 things worth giving up if you want to be happy dating over 50
08/01/2014 2:42 PM
08/01/2014 2:44 PM
1. Give up your self-defeating attitude.
How many times do you look in the mirror and criticize yourself saying things like, “My butt looks too big in these pants,” “I should really lose 10 pounds,” or “My neck is awful?”
Doing this to yourself takes a toll on your psyche. You start believing that, instead of how awesome you are as a woman over 50.
Try shifting this way of thinking by looking in your mirror while telling yourself everything you either love about you or are grateful for in your life.
Men don’t pick you apart like you do yourself. If they are attracted to you (and men are attracted to all types of women) then they have the ability to love the whole you and accept you just as beautiful as you are.
Can you? Make a list of 10 things you love about you.
Then look in the mirror every day and remind yourself how wonderful you are.
2. Give up your limiting beliefs about available men.
Many women believe what makes a “quality man” is his ability to swoop her off her feet, wine and dine her at the best restaurants and give her presents and a wealthy lifestyle.
Money does not make a “quality man.” How a man treats you and how you feel around a man is far more important.
I have a former client who found herself madly in love with a man who is a nurse. They have an amazing relationship and he makes her feel loved, cherished and adored. Those feelings have nothing to do with money or the fact that she out-earns him.
Lots of good men want nothing more than to make you happy. The guy with the belly might make the greatest husband in the world.
You just have to give them a chance.
3. Give up your closed heart so you can have the relationship you want.
Is your heart open to allowing a great man to walk into your life?
One of the scariest times for my clients is when it’s time to date. I’ve seen women who told me they desperately wanted a man in their life suddenly want to quit dating. Why?
Because letting someone into your heart again is SCARY. You’ve probably been hurt when it comes to love. So you protect your heart, using excuses like “I’m too busy to date” or “my grandchildren need me” or “there are no good men to date.”
It takes a lot of work to find the right man.
You want to have every dating tool and skill available to you in your dating toolbox so you can keep moving forward.
So start loving you so a man can love you. See the possibilities and open your heart so love can come to you.
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