Take time to love yourself
03/04/2013 11:11 AM
03/04/2013 11:13 AM
By Patty Brisben
Most women have a habit of loving other people more than themselves. They are pulled in many directions and every day the to-do list gets a little longer. Too often, women spend so much time focusing on others that they forget to invest energy in themselves. The truth is, loving yourself is no different than loving someone else – you have to commit to it every day.
Here are a few ways you can pay yourself some positive attention and build a stronger relationship with the woman in the mirror.
–Keep a journal. Take some time to celebrate the small stuff. Each night before you go to bed, write a list of good things that happened to you that day. This list does not have to be long; try to shoot for five little moments that made you smile.
I keep a journal myself, and it has a profound effect on my outlook. I have discovered that positivity breeds positivity. Now I see joy at every turn, even in challenges, and I am grateful for every day.
When you feel like nothing is going your way, reread your journal. You will be thankful for all of your good fortune.
–Schedule some me time. In a society that moves faster each day, people are busier than ever. Between our jobs, family responsibilities, and social obligations, we are on the go all of the time. We often lose ourselves in the shuffle.
Set aside thirty minutes every day. What you do with this time is your call. You can spend it exercising, getting a massage, having your nails done, even napping. It’s completely up to you. Do anything that makes you feel good for half an hour a day. You deserve it!
–Develop positive mantras. You have to be your greatest cheerleader. That doesn’t mean you need to invest in pom-poms and ribbons or teach yourself to do a back handspring, but you do need to encourage and love yourself every day.
Only you can decide what positive affirmation you need the most, but for a starting point, try something general like “I deserve happiness” or “Today will be a great day.” Look yourself in the mirror every morning and start your day on a positive note.
–Surround yourself with uplifting people. We all have anchors in our lives – people who always tell us why we won’t achieve our goals and give us a list of reasons to fear stepping out of our boxes. Some people, even those closest to us, are quick to point out the negative – they never enjoy the sunshine, they only complain about the heat.
Conversely, there are those who always shine a light on our darkness with their praise, positivity, and encouragement. Think of the people in your life who are always smiling, always trying new things, always making you wish your life was more like theirs.
–Recognize the anchors in your life and avoid them. Make more time for the people who make you feel good about yourself and push you to conquer your fears. You’ll find their zest for life is infectious, and soon you will mirror their enthusiasm.
Now is the perfect time to make – and keep – a promise to fall in love with yourself. After all, you are the only you you’ve got.
Patty Brisben is a sex expert and the Founder of Pure Romance (www.pureromance.com), in-home party company that sells a premier line of relationship aids. She is a highly noted and frequently called upon expert in the fields of women’s intimacy and relationships, as well sexual health education and awareness. Read more from her blog at www.pattybrisben.com
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