A viral video on International Women’s Day from the Clinton Foundation gave the message “we’re not there yet,” meaning we’ve got a long way to go before the end of the discrimination and oppression of women.
This is the sentiment inspired by Marlene Wagman-Geller’s “Behind Every Great Man: The Forgotten Women Behind the World’s Famous and Infamous,” a well-crafted exploration into the lives of 40 women who were coupled with some of history and pop culture’s most prominent.
The majority of these women did not have happy lives. Though the book provides exceptions (Jackie and Rachel Robinson and Douglas and Jean MacArthur stick out as relatively happy couples compared to the rest), the majority of these men either were extensively unfaithful, abandoned their partners and/or children in times of need (Of Alfred Hitchcock and wife Alma’s only child being born: “He was absent during the delivery, explaining he could not bear the suspense.”) or both.
Francoise Gilot, Pablo Picasso’s longtime girlfriend, decided to leave him after his public affairs and private verbal abuse, and he responded by blacklisting her in the art world and cutting off all contact with her and their children for the rest of his life.
After Mahatma Gandhi’s wife, Kasturba, picked up the same scarce dietary habits at home as he did while imprisoned, he wrote, “I am not in a position to come and nurse you. If it is destined that you should die, I think it is preferable that you should go before me.”
The list goes on.
But while much of the book resonates with the wide range of horrors these women went through at the hands of their lovers, its focus is their own strength and power that inspired change to the world.
Alma Hitchcock suggested, against her husband’s wishes, that Janet Leigh perish in the first third of “Psycho,” and that the infamous shower scene include music (Alfred wanted silence).
Gala Dali often dictated what her painter husband Salvador should paint.
Although she never received credit, Mileva Einstein collaborated with husband Albert on the theory of relativity.
That list goes on, too.
At times the cheekiness of the commentary can be a bit off-putting. (Of Albert and Mileva Einstein’s relationship: “It was not love at first sight, but it was a meeting of minds – akin to E meeting mc2.”)
Such distractions aside, the book’s easily digestible format of short chapters noting the highs and lows of these women’s lives is attention-grabbing and enlightening, proving that although we might not know their stories, we should.
In the issue of gender equality, we may not be there yet, as the Clinton Foundation’s video reminds us. But giving a voice to women like these is a vital step.
Behind Every Great Man: The Forgotten Women Behind the World’s Famous and Infamous
Sourcebooks, 368 pages