5 things we learned from 'The First 30 Days'

We're all about change these days, aren't we?

Political, personal, a new job, divorce, loss of a loved one. Good or bad, whether foisted upon us or of our own choosing, change is always tough. Ariane de Bonvoisin focuses on the first 30 days and offers nine principles to lessen the pain and nurture the gain. Here are five things we learned from her book, “The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Any Change (and Loving Your Life More)” (HarperOne, $24.95):

1. Don't resist it. The more quickly you accept the change, the less hardship you'll experience.

2. See the positive. De Bonvoisin maintains that something good comes out of every change.

3. Stay alert. You may be on your way to divorce court when you hear a stock tip that will make your fortune.

4. Exercise your “change muscle.” The more you use it, the better you'll be able to take advantage of change.

5. Beware the “change demons.” Replace negative emotions such as blame and guilt with positive ones such as honesty and forgiveness.