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There is recovery from sexual assault

Resa Goldberg’s killer migraines were wrecking her life. Imagine Disney World with two kids, a husband and a headache that feels as if someone is twisting an ice pick around in your brain.

From 7-9 p.m. on Thursday at Mugs Coffee, 5126 Park Road, Charlotte’s Goldberg will talk about her just-released memoir, “Love Me Madly” (Moonshine Cove Publishers), which explores the events that prompted those migraines and the steps she took to gain a manageable, productive life.

Hers is a familiar story. It’s 1982, and Resa was 15, living in a small town in this state. She met a boy she liked. One night, he sexually assaulted her. When she tried to back away from the relationship, he stalked her. He raped her again. Two long years later, he moved away. Like most girls, she never told her parents. Also like most girls, she fell into shame and self-doubt.

Despite the headaches, Goldberg pushed through college at UNC-Charlotte and earned a master’s degree in broadcasting at the University of Georgia.

What began to save her were Al-Anon meetings. She told her story and listened to others’ stories. As she learned forgiveness, the migraines began to abate. The memoir started as a therapeutic exercise in writing down what happened. At last, she told her parents. One day, she looked at her pages with an editor’s eye, and she began writing this memoir.

Part of the proceeds from the book will go to Safe Alliance, a Charlotte non-profit agency that offers services for victims of sexual assault and domestic violence. She also requests donations for the agency on Thursday evening.

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