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I’ve never been one to question why things happen the way that they do…  I figure while the Lord doesn’t cause certain situations to occur, He does permit them.  Whether I am able to see beyond my own circumstances or not, I press on with absolute certainty that everything works toward the greater good of His much larger plan.

Even so, we’ve struggled to adapt to our new living arrangements…  Having three households merge into one has been challenging.  It’s kind of funny to think I complained about tight living quarters at the lake and now I find myself downsized again, allotted the span of a guest bedroom, with my parents-in-law literally two steps away…  My sister-in-law is an angel, more gracious than anyone could reasonably expect; nevertheless, it’s tough to make yourself completely at home in someone else’s house.  Privacy doesn’t exist in this environment…

Thus far, we’ve been able to make it work, though there have been moments of too much togetherness and times of outright disagreement.  John and his brother have fundamentally differing philosophies about what it means to assist their parents during this difficult time; one feels the need to constantly test limits while the other takes a more passive approach.  Each firmly believes his way works best…

Based upon prior experience with my grandmother, I think it depends; either can be ‘right’ when caring for a seriously (terminally) ill person.  The difficulty is knowing when to do which…

Except in this case, their decisions and actions don’t just impact their father…they affect my mother-in-law too.

If there has been bickering over little things such as what to eat, how often to shower and other daily activities, imagine the controversy surrounding end of life issues…

Despite my reluctance to (potentially) cause additional strife, I requested that information about advance directives be shared with my in-laws.  My hope in doing so is that my father-in-law’s wishes will be clearly stated (in writing this time) and misunderstandings about them between family members can be avoided.

Heaven knows, grieving the loss of a loved one is hard enough when everyone is getting along…

 

Wishing you blessings and hope…tg

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