Last August, standing in front of a hundred and twenty-five of our closest friends and family, we said “I do,” and in the blink of an eye we have just celebrated our one-year anniversary. While I’m far from being an expert on marriage, I can tell you a few things I’ve learned in my first year of newlywed-ness. I’ll start with making time for each other.
It might seem like a simple concept but after the wedding, you really don’t get any time back like you think you will. You’re so busy planning and focusing on all things wedding-related that it seems like you have time for nothing else and you assume post-wedding, you’ll have hours upon hours to bask in newlywed life with your spouse and not worry about a thing. Not true. Life goes on, and the hustle and bustle is still there, even without planning the biggest day of your life.
For us, grad school continued on for my husband (only one class left now!), he also took a new job and travels FOUR days a week, while I still travel once or twice a month for work, we bought a new house which we’ve spent a good amount of time making into our home, and somehow we’re just as busy as we were when we were in the thick of wedding planning.
In order to focus on your marriage, and make it everything you want it to be, you have to be intentional and carve out time for each other and spend time together. In our life, this means date nights on Thursdays when he gets home from wherever he’s been for the week; Whitewater Center on the weekends; picnics in the park with no phones allowed; walking the dogs together; having coffee on Sundays at one of our local coffee shops and of course, the occasional getaway to bucket list places or the Carolina coast.
Life doesn’t slow down once you’re married. Our calendar is already booked out a couple months with football games (Go Hokies!), weddings, baby showers, concerts, charity events and before we know it, Thanksgiving will be here. Scheduling date nights and making sure you have quality, uninterrupted time together is important. So take a break from going through the motions, and make time for just the two of you to talk, laugh, date, keep falling in love.