Next in my list of things I’ve learned in my first year of marriage is to live your vows. Vows aren’t just words you say on your wedding day, they are promises to your spouse. Your vows are a promise to love and cherish your spouse, even when you’re having a bad day or a silly fight. A promise to stay together no matter your health or money situation.
We used fairly traditional vows, but also took a moment to speak some words to each other. We talked about encouragement and support; pushing each other to take risks and do things outside of our comfort zones. We talked about traveling together, which is one of my most favorite things to do. I love seeing new places but it’s even better when my husband is by my side on that adventure. We talked about leaning on each other, being a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry on. The biggest part was promising to love each other and love big. Loving on the bad days, the good days, the days where you don’t want to do anything, the days where you want to do everything different.
We haven’t had many trials and tribulations in our first year of marriage, but you never know when something will strike. Having a strong foundation and bond in place will help you when that happens. You’ll be prepared to say, “We’re okay. We’re in this together. I’ve got your back.” You’ll be ready to push through whatever it may be, to hold each other while you cry, laugh until your bellies hurt and when whatever it is ends, you’ll be stronger.
Your spouse is your partner in everything you do in life. You’re not just sharing a bank account and a house; you’re sharing everything (even the flu at times) in your lives. Staying true to your vows will help you grow as a couple and cultivate a strong relationship.
When the time comes you have to act on the vows you made and be authentic about them. Remember why you decided to spend your life with this person and get married. Occasionally, life will throw unexpected things your way, but lucky for you, you have this person who promised to love you no matter what and to support you and hold your hand when you’re sick. And lucky for them, they have you to encourage them in tough times, be their shoulder to cry on and remind them how much they are loved.