‘Rock star' in a wig keeps it interesting

Q: I'm writing in response to the man who fantasizes about his fiancee's sister in her school uniform while they have sex. My husband and I are both in our 40s, and about a year ago we decided to spice things up. Dressing certain ways can be fun and exciting. I'm a typical PTA mom who dresses conservatively, but in the bedroom I can be whoever I want. My husband has been a cop, and just last weekend he was a rock star with wig, leather pants and fake tattoos. Couples should discuss their fantasies together. We all have different desires. My husband and I are more in love than ever, and I'm a firm believer that if you are happy in the bedroom, everything else falls into place.

Steve: I dressed up as Godzilla once, but my fire breath played hob with the curtains. I agree that bedroom happiness can smooth over the daily troubles that afflict most marriages. Keep on having fun.

Mia: Leather pants and fake tattoos? How Sid Vicious of him. But, hey, whatever works. I like to put on a beret and call myself Tanya in the bedroom.

Can't seem to let her go

Q: I've been in the military for seven years and just recently broke up with my girlfriend, whom I've been dating for three years. Recent stress on both sides caused us to argue and fight over the most minute situations. I never showed her my anger until now. She couldn't take it and left me. She would not answer my calls, texts or e-mails. Finally, I agreed we could just be friends, but I am scared. If we are just friends, she will continue on with her life. I don't think she will come back to me on her own. If I pressure her, I may drive her even further away. All I know is I need and want her. I want to marry her and raise a family. The worst part is, even if we get back together, we will still be apart for the remaining three years I have left in the military. I am scared what may happen until then.

Mia: First, you need to understand that she may not want to get back together. That's just a reality. But if you still want to try to reignite the flames, you'll have to take it slow. Try just being friends for a while. Write e-mails, talk on the phone, let her get to know the guy she fell in love with. After you have had some down time, you can tell her you want another chance.

Steve: You should keep an open mind on this one. Your anger and your obsession with her are not healthy. Stay friends but try to establish some other relationships with women, too. I'd hate to see you on the wrong end of a protection order.