Q: I went to prom with a boy whom I consider a friend, but who I think likes me more than just as a friend. We had a lot of fun and have hung out since, but only platonically. Recently, he gave my phone number to his best friend, and the best friend and I have been talking, texting and Facebooking. Now, I've fallen hard for the best friend. The only problems are: I don't know for sure if the first boy wants to be more than friends with me, but I don't want to hurt him and risk our friendship by dating his best friend. And I don't know for sure if the best friend feels the same way about me that I do about him. I don't want to risk either friendship. It's confusing and difficult!
Steve: Even having one boyfriend can be confusing. Luckily there's a way out for you. It won't be easy, but you'll feel like a weight has been lifted. This is what you do: Be open about your feelings for boy No. 2 with both boys. Then accept their feelings in return. I'm guessing the result won't be as bad as you fear.
Mia: Isn't there a Cybill Shepherd movie that pretty much sums up how this will go? Love triangles never end well. Fortunately for you, if you've just graduated from high school, then presumably you're all heading to different colleges in September. This pretty much means you're in no-fault territory, since you'll soon be separated from both of them. So go after the one you want. And have fun!
Be careful with new person
Q: Shame on both of you for suggesting that the 50-year-old female doctor go to a site like Match.com or any other dating site. Have you seen what is lurking on those sites lately? In the last two months, the paper has reported cases of money scams and date rape. Instead, I suggest she attend some of those out-of-town conferences doctors have.
Steve: Sure. What could possibly go wrong at an out-of-town doctors convention? Con artists and jerks are everywhere. We always suggest when you meet someone for the first time to do it in a safe, public place and not reveal too much personal information. Be careful out there.
Mia: Who's to say those doctors don't take off their wedding bands when they're out of town? I've known people who've had great experiences using Match.com. And I've known people who met dates through friends and ended up in bad situations.