Q. I moved in with my best guy friend because financially it was better, and I always hung out at his place anyway. Things have always been strictly platonic, but for the past few months I've started to develop serious feelings for him. He's very flirty with me. Quite frankly, we ACT like a couple. We're constantly texting each other and cuddling on the couch. We go out to dinner together, and I'm sure people think we're a couple. The only things missing are the kissing and sex. I feel like the feelings are mutual. But he keeps hooking up with other girls (and then forgetting about them the next day). How do I find out if the feelings are mutual? I live with him, so confessing my feelings to him may result in me having to move out.
Steve: He sounds like quite the ladies man. What if you introduce sex to your relationship and he continues to hook up with other girls? You'll feel worse than you do now. Still, it's better to resolve this one way or the other. If you want an exclusive, romantic relationship with him, spell it out just that way. If he's not ready for it, move out or accept that the romance won't work.
Mia: Having to move out shouldn't stop you from saying how you feel. You're going to be unhappy if you stay living there and keep quiet. So tell him how you feel and move out if he doesn't feel the same way. Honestly, even if you both have feelings, you might want to move out. Starting out a new relationship living together might be a bit much.
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