I’ve always wondered how being raised with a father-as-primary care giver instead of a mother-as-primary caregiver would affect my 3 YO and her views on parenting. Naturally I don’t think there’s any significant “grand scheme” difference- a loving parent is a loving parent regardless of gender- but occasionally my daughter will talk about the future in a way that I’m pretty sure I never would have and I find her perspectives humorous.
Tonight over dinner she told us about what would happen when she is an adult and we all go out to dinner: “I’m going to drive the car in the driver’s seat and Mommy is going to sit in the passenger seat”.
“Okay, but where’s Daddy?” I asked.
She got a “well, duh!?!?” expression on her face and stated, “Sitting in the back seat taking care of my baby. Hey! Maybe I’ll have twins and you can take care of two babies while I drive!”
Somehow I don’t believe I ever envisioned any of my male role models taking care of babies while the women sat in the front seat and talked business. While I’m sure her views will change over time, I’m hoping that she will accept nothing less than a man willing to sit in the back with the babies once and a while.