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So much time has passed…  I can hardly believe we are approaching the anniversary of the day when our world changed forever.  How we managed to get here, I have no idea…surely by grace and the prayers of many...  Seems like it has all been just a dream…actually a nightmare played out in real life…  Every night when I’m cooking supper, I expect Brian to come hustling through the back door, a minute away from late, reeking of that pungent sweaty outdoor teenage boy smell, yelling his apology with a smile on his way to the shower…  Devastating to realize this dinner time expectation of mine is the dream now…

We had lunch today at The Olive Garden with Erica Singleton, a reporter for the Matthews Mint Hill Weekly newspaper; she is writing a feature on Butler’s golf team.  She asked Coach Shaughnessy for John’s phone number; memories of and comments about Brian were the unifying theme of the golf team interview.  Their season is dedicated to his memory…  Erica’s questions were thoughtful and considerate; she patiently allowed us as much time as we needed, forgiving our rambling responses.  It was hard to watch the pride and pain evident on John’s face as we remembered the last days of Brian’s final golf match…

…Brian’s score was the one that qualified the Bulldogs to advance from the 2008 N.C. 4A West Regional tournament to the state finals.  During the practice round of the state tournament, Brian injured his wrist.  He called home to ask us what to do to ease the pain and swelling.  Although he really wanted to play, after a few swings the next morning he recognized he couldn’t compete at the level he needed to, so Brian asked Coach to take him out of the competition.  He stayed upbeat, cheering his teammates on, driving around the course offering support any way he could.  A month later, Brian was gone.  The day after Brian’s accident, Coach wrote us a letter, explaining what Brian meant to him as a student, athlete and friend; it ended with his description of an award created in Brian’s honor.  It will be given at the end of the season to the player who displays the best of Brian’s attributes…courage, sportsmanship, and a positive attitude…

Like everything else in life, the team and the game must go on…  Brian would want it that way.  He wouldn’t want any of us to stop living because he is gone… 

Finding the heart, summoning the will to do so…  Well, we’re still trying to figure that part out…

Wishing you sunshine, hope, and many blessings during this Easter season…tg

Tammy will be enjoying spring break with her family this week; she will return to update her blog on Monday, April 12th.  -- Jen, site administrator  

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