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June, 2009

The lake surface is smooth as glass; the color changes to an opaque greenish black as the slope descends to ever greater depths.  The stone in my hand is lightweight, smooth and mostly flat…  I wonder if it will skip across the top or simply plunk down to the bottom; it will create a ripple, either way…  Everything we do, every decision we make, has an effect; some obvious, others not, and some, entirely unintended...

As the one-year mark approached, Natalie Dick of WCNC asked for an interview.  Initially, we thought no; sharing our story through writing is one thing, speaking face to face is something else entirely.  However, after thinking it over, we decided to go ahead.  The whole point of what we are doing is to raise awareness of how dangerous using cell phones while driving can be; this was a great opportunity to reach people we otherwise wouldn’t.  We had no idea what to expect, but Natalie was very kind and respectful of our feelings…as was the final story…  http://www.wcnc.com/news/local/68686162.html  

Seeing John speak so openly of missing Brian, watching the tears trail down his face, was almost more than I could stand…

At the beginning of June, a representative from a local driving school saw the Observer article about Brian’s bracelets and asked for some to give to all of their instructors.  I immediately took them to him and during our conversation, we determined he may have been the one who taught Brian’s driver’s education class last year at Butler…  When Rebecca Clark of FOX News called the school and spoke to him about the new law (banning texting and driving) awaiting Governor Perdue’s signature, he suggested she call us for an interview.  We agreed to do it for the same reason as before: another chance to reach someone new, to spread the message further.  Rebecca was also very nice and considerate of us…  Only we weren’t prepared for the video footage used in their final piece.  Taken a year ago, at the scene.  Brian’s car, loaded onto the flatbed wrecker.  The driver’s side of the car, his door…

Beth ran from the room to throw up…  Grace started yelling and crying hysterically…  I felt sick and my head started pounding…  Rightly or wrongly, I never allowed Beth or Grace to see his car, other than the still image taken by a news helicopter that awful day.  I didn’t foresee this possibility; we didn’t watch any news last year after it happened so it didn’t occur to me to be concerned.  Nevertheless, I failed to protect them and now that image is forever seared into their minds…

I don’t blame Fox News; I didn’t ask what pictures they would be showing with our interview, nor did they say.  Maybe they didn’t know at that point…I certainly don’t believe they intended to cause us pain.  One thing is for sure…that particular picture leaves nothing to the imagination, and is worth far more than a thousand words, so if it doesn’t make our message crystal clear, nothing will.

I must admit, sometimes I wonder if we’re doing the right thing by speaking out, especially after moments like these…  It’s not easy to believe something good will happen when it hurts…but I do...

Wishing you many blessings and always, hope…tg

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