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Winds of Change...

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The winds of change continue to blow through our lives…   Large, life-altering changes are on the horizon for many members of my family, the kind which require adjustments in attitude, behavior and thinking.   This fall will be a time of transition, filled with difficult endings and new beginnings brought on by relocations, relationship shifts and different work positions…

 

 

 

Giddiness…hissy fits…decision-making paralysis… I’ve seen it all lately, in others and occasionally in my own reflection…

 

 

 

I’ve acted as a sounding board, playing the devil’s advocate or the voice of reason as needed between mother, daughters and siblings…

 

 

 

I’m not the only one in the family who despises upheaval; the natural human tendency is to expect our loved ones to remain the same forever; I’ve discovered this bias doesn’t yield easily… Apparently I’m better at accepting it than others in my family, at least when the substance of the change is happening primarily to someone else…

 

 

 

I suppose in order to appreciate where you are, you have to look back and consider where you’ve been.   Not from the standpoint of living in the past, but rather to more fully value and be thankful for your current life situation. I try to extend the same thought process and consideration to those I love…

 

 

 

I’ve spent plenty of time on the road recently and had stretches of time to contemplate my past, present and future…   It is because of this reflection that I realize how blissfully ignorant I was in my old life.  

 

 

 

My childhood was quite the opposite of John’s; however, I know it equipped me for challenges further down the road.   Nevertheless, nothing from those experiences truly prepared me for loss and sorrow…   Grief profoundly and permanently changes you, perhaps in no way greater than the dawning awareness and understanding that nothing in this life is forever, change will inevitably happen and if you live long enough, loss is simply a given...

 

 

It is because of the mournful eyes through which I view the world that I am able to see more clearly…  

 

 

Some things we are free to decide…others affect us but are beyond the realm of our influence…   The only thing we really control is our reaction to the change that is occurring…

 

 

 

“What I like most about change is that it’s a synonym for ‘hope’.   If you are taking a risk, what you are really saying is ‘I believe in tomorrow and I will be part of it.’”-Linda Ellerbee

 

 

Wishing you blessings and hope…

 

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